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Angry Black women...

I have recently encountered this comment numerous times in the past couple of weeks! I would say that I am enraged about this comment but I think that this would only assist in the statement. I just don't understand why this is the perception. I would like to think that I'm a pretty positive person. I love being optimistic. I think that there is so much negative in the world and it's easy to focus on that but so much harder to see the good in the little things! I have been really trying to do that. But hearing comments like, "That's why a lot of black men aren't with black women is because they're angry" kills my soul! I love black men and to know that because they assume I'm angry means they won't approach me makes me sad.

Are black women defensive, maybe. I know I am and at times I try not to be but I hate being felt like I'm being underestimated. Some of that may be own personal belief but I can't help it. But that doesn't mean that I'm angry. I am working on expressing my opinion more because for so long I have silenced myself for a long time. I have noticed that now at times when I try to express myself people take it as me being hostile. So it's a lose-lose situation!

I'm afraid that I won't be able to attract the type of man because I seem angry...this bothers me!
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